What women tend to respond to more than anything is boldness. Confidence is catnip for the ladies. This is entirely understandable in terms of natural selection.
To acknowledge your imperfections with grace and good humour. Not to accept them, but to refuse to apologise for them—to refuse to apologise for yourself.
That's such a glorious thing that you did. Especially with everybody watching. I would be very touched by something like that. I was in a very long relationship and had never used an app in my life until a couple of years ago and it was pretty horrific, still is, although I have met the odd very decent person. There have to be better ways of meeting people. My friends and I are talking about bringing back dinner parties. Five single guys and five single girls that don't know each other. We're going to do it. Covid killed the dinner party.
I don't know anyone who's had an overall good experience on dating apps. There's no substitute for face-to-face. On the confidence thing: there's a subtlety here, I think. Say in a dating situation where you are nervous: confidence isn't about being able to hide your nerves; it about being able to admit you feel nervous without feeling ashamed or deprecating yourself for it.
Yes. I think vulnerability is sexy. As you get older I think you feel more comfortable in your own skin and it's easier to be upfront. I'm all about honesty, don't hide things from people. If they don't like it that's their problem. Next!
Very rarely see it unfortunately. Men are too afraid to approach women cold. People, not just men, have lost the art of conversation. And the apps are hopeless. People are too afraid to really connect, or connect at all. What I would give to meet a truly confident man…
I agree. I've been in a relationship for a long time now, and never used dating apps, but this was an experience from my dating days that taught me something important about what women value (generally speaking).
When I was dating and I saw someone I was attracted to, I would approach courteously, chat, and ask for their number. I would do this anywhere - almost to test myself. See, I think I’d been too shy - too diffident - when younger.
One time I was on a morning commuter train that was absolutely packed, standing room only, and I spied this attractive woman. Our eyes met for the briefest of moments and I knew that, at the very least, she was not irked or intimidated by me. Perhaps a little spark of something? She was in a seat further up the carriage with lots of people between me and her. I wrote down my number on a piece of paper and the words, “text to win,” and then, as we approached my stop, I struggled my way through the packed bodies towards her. Everyone was grumpy about this but curious as to what I was doing. I apologised and squashed my feelings of embarrassment. Then when I reached her - everyone in the carriage now watching me - I said “Hi, here’s my number. Maybe I can buy you a drink sometime?”
I then bustled my way back through the commuters and got off the train. I turned around to look as the train pulled away. Maybe she thought I was some creep, right? She was smiling at me from the window and gave a little wave. I smiled back.
That evening, we had drinks and she said to me: “It was so bold what you did on the train. I was proud of you.”
I don't think it's perverse to suppress desires though. If we don't put a lid on something like that we may have more bad than good. Some people truly desire nothing and maybe they do have low testosterone.
It would get boring after a while, once you've mastered your craft. Depends on the quality of your quarry I suppose... I want to hear about when she bit you.
there's a reason copywriters are the best with girls...
emotional manipulation on top.
highly recommended.
Copywriting is basically a superpower.
What women tend to respond to more than anything is boldness. Confidence is catnip for the ladies. This is entirely understandable in terms of natural selection.
To acknowledge your imperfections with grace and good humour. Not to accept them, but to refuse to apologise for them—to refuse to apologise for yourself.
Agree, to a point. Too much confidence, without anything behind it, is a put-off. We can always tell...
I’d call that arrogance. Real confidence is justified self belief. It’s not performative.
That's such a glorious thing that you did. Especially with everybody watching. I would be very touched by something like that. I was in a very long relationship and had never used an app in my life until a couple of years ago and it was pretty horrific, still is, although I have met the odd very decent person. There have to be better ways of meeting people. My friends and I are talking about bringing back dinner parties. Five single guys and five single girls that don't know each other. We're going to do it. Covid killed the dinner party.
I don't know anyone who's had an overall good experience on dating apps. There's no substitute for face-to-face. On the confidence thing: there's a subtlety here, I think. Say in a dating situation where you are nervous: confidence isn't about being able to hide your nerves; it about being able to admit you feel nervous without feeling ashamed or deprecating yourself for it.
Yes. I think vulnerability is sexy. As you get older I think you feel more comfortable in your own skin and it's easier to be upfront. I'm all about honesty, don't hide things from people. If they don't like it that's their problem. Next!
Very rarely see it unfortunately. Men are too afraid to approach women cold. People, not just men, have lost the art of conversation. And the apps are hopeless. People are too afraid to really connect, or connect at all. What I would give to meet a truly confident man…
I agree. I've been in a relationship for a long time now, and never used dating apps, but this was an experience from my dating days that taught me something important about what women value (generally speaking).
When I was dating and I saw someone I was attracted to, I would approach courteously, chat, and ask for their number. I would do this anywhere - almost to test myself. See, I think I’d been too shy - too diffident - when younger.
One time I was on a morning commuter train that was absolutely packed, standing room only, and I spied this attractive woman. Our eyes met for the briefest of moments and I knew that, at the very least, she was not irked or intimidated by me. Perhaps a little spark of something? She was in a seat further up the carriage with lots of people between me and her. I wrote down my number on a piece of paper and the words, “text to win,” and then, as we approached my stop, I struggled my way through the packed bodies towards her. Everyone was grumpy about this but curious as to what I was doing. I apologised and squashed my feelings of embarrassment. Then when I reached her - everyone in the carriage now watching me - I said “Hi, here’s my number. Maybe I can buy you a drink sometime?”
I then bustled my way back through the commuters and got off the train. I turned around to look as the train pulled away. Maybe she thought I was some creep, right? She was smiling at me from the window and gave a little wave. I smiled back.
That evening, we had drinks and she said to me: “It was so bold what you did on the train. I was proud of you.”
"Proud" of me. :-O
Looking forward to this one
Not the Target Audience, but you should definitely Listen to this man.
I don't think it's perverse to suppress desires though. If we don't put a lid on something like that we may have more bad than good. Some people truly desire nothing and maybe they do have low testosterone.
Gio This is a sheep to Wolf thing thanks for this
I guess copy writing does serve you both ways one in business other in life
Delicious as a woman to read G. But this level of mastery is alas beyond most men, and always will be...
Lol, I bet you need glasses to see properly
Yeah not sure what my glasses have to do with anything, but I see and hear just fine thanks champ.
Le Labo Santal 33.
It's a 10/10 post keep mentoring G
Disagree on Jiujitsu
Not Applicable in Real life situations. Good for Tournamentals.
Also disagree , have you shoved someone with a fast 2-leg takedown in a street before? Have you seen the stun in his face?
Question G, how are you able to perform all these traits seamlessly and perfectly like a movie character?
Mastery. I've been in situations like that countless times, sometimes it gets boring.
It would get boring after a while, once you've mastered your craft. Depends on the quality of your quarry I suppose... I want to hear about when she bit you.
Chat GPT
Things that didn't happen for $100, Alex
... flowing around her like liquid fire with every step. ...
wow ...🌹